When friends don’t call back…
July 10, 2006
My best and closest friends are from my college days. A couple of them are from my school days, but most of them are from the college where I did my engineering and some from where I did my masters.
I believe that most of our long term relationships are forged during our college days. That’s the time when friends are friends. You graduate from your school days where friends were- people with whom you cycled to school, people with whom you did your assignments, classmates who stayed in the same appartment complex as yours, your and their parents worked at the same office so you kept meeting at parties.
In college you truly emerge from the shadows of your family and start exhibiting your personality. A new universe evolves. In between lectures, labs, cultural fests, tea breaks, cack sessions in canteens- new bonds develop, friendships that promise a lifelong association blossom. You pass out from your college; the friendship, the relationship stays. You long to share every good or bad news with your friends. Distances don’t matter and the moment you meet or talk, you feel connected. It’s as if you’ve never been away, never been far.
But, life moves on.
People get married, parents retire, responsibilities at work increase, kids arrive, priorities change. They all demand time. Does this affect friendships? Yes and No. You still care. You still feel connected whenever you get talking, whenever you meet. But, you don’t meet often and you don’t get to talk often. Which is again okay.
It’s when you realize that you are the one who always calls, that it’s not okay. It’s when you realize that you are the one who always sends a IM, that it’s not okay. It’s when you start thinking before sending a IM, that it’s not okay. It probably means we have moved on. Does it?